Wednesday, November 19, 2014

A Label I Don't Mind

I have been labeled. It isn't a bad classification thankfully. Just one that describes my current station very well. I don't mind it as much as ADHD. I had that label slapped on me as a child. This label isn't like that.


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No, it doesn't stand for super-active-hyper-drive, though that would be cool. It just stands for Stay-At-Home Daughter. See, nothing too exciting.

I have been asked to explain *why*. Why at the age of 22 am I still living at home? I am capable, responsible, and hard working. So why am I still pining away at home, waiting by my window, looking out towards the road, singing "Someday My Prince Will Come", and helping wipe my siblings noses while slaving in my mother's kitchen?

Well, upon being asked on this point, my first answer was simple; Free food! Free lodging! Free internet! Boo yeah baby! But, as it was my Mom asking, that answer wasn't going to fly over very well.

I had to go to my creative corner and think. Honestly, I had never actually given this much consideration. For me, it was just something all of my friends and I did: simply remain at home till marriage. But, that answer wasn't good enough either. So back to my corner. Here is what I finally came up with. (She better like this!)

What do you think of when you hear the word "home"? I think of safety, love, care, concern, authority, and sharing. A place to share ideas, get advice, being with people who know your faults, and love you anyway. A place where you can be yourself, talk freely, and sleep without having to worry about your safety. I have no concern about where my next meal is going to come from, or fear that I will be rejected for my faith. I am surrounded by people I agree with on many subjects, and hold the same general convictions about things. I fit in. I am accepted as a person. I have my own talents, and I am encouraged to grow and strengthen them.

And, yes, this is where I have learned to cook, clean, care for children, lean on others for help, build people up, submit to authority, consider how hard marriage can be and what it takes to make it work, debate, and search out what I believe. I was not trained to just "grow up", I was trained how to thrive. All from the best teachers in the world; my parents.

I have heard that if you can learn to live with every person in your home, you can get along with anyone in the world. I totally understand why. I am learning about that too.

But something else that being here at home has encouraged me to do; make my own home someday. I see things here that I think, "I will do that too when I am married/have a home." or, "I don't agree with that method; I will try something different when I have children". Mom isn't training me to be just like her, or to do everything like she does. I am not her carbon copy. She knows she has made some mistakes. She is teaching me to make decisions for myself, and make my own choices, but reminds me of the consequences of my actions, whether good or bad. She is not a perfect teacher, but she is the best trainer that Christ could have provided for me.

Dad is not a pro at raising daughters, but neither am I proficient at being a daughter. We are in this together, and I get the privilege of practicing how to relate to my husband and submit to his authority through Daddy. I am protected, and loved. I get to experience what it is like for a man to tell you that you are beautiful, in a pure and sweet way that only a dad can tell his daughter. I don't have to wonder what it will be like to be cherished by a man, or to get the attention of the opposite sex. My earthly father is someone I can turn to for advice, love, opinions, and correction (I don't like that part so much J). He is a fierce protector, and you don’t mess with his girls.

My sisters are my best friends. 100% hands down. I share my life, my opinions (whether they want it or not), my failures, my sorrow, and my happiness. In return, I get the same things from them. We are a team. We face life together. We build each other up in the Lord, spurring the other on to greater glory for God. We struggle, we even argue sometimes, but at the end of the day, we are better people because we love each other. I can't imagine what I would do without them honestly.

I also don't need to wait till marriage to discover that men are not just physically different from women, but intellectually and emotionally as well. My brothers are top professors in the college course of Guy Psychology 101. I am learning how guys respond, think, act, process, and view things quite the opposite than I think they should. I am also discovering how to react, redirect, and encourage them (it hasn't been easy in any way!) by simply living with and observing them in their own environment where they are most comfortable. And I haven't had to go through any heartbreaks or dream-shattering experiences to come to that conclusion. I also get the added benefit of having protectors, even when my daddy isn't there. Though we struggle at times in our relationships, my brothers don't take kindly too guys mistreating their sisters. I really appreciate that!

Considering all this, why would a rational young woman not want to live at home? I understand there are homes with many different situations and problems, but this is what is true of my home. There are so many benefits, including free food, lodging, and internet. ;-)

I love it here, and wouldn't want to be any other place until it is time to start my own home, or unless God calls me to serve somewhere else.

Home is where the heart of this SAHD chooses to be.

Monday, October 27, 2014

Armour of God

Wherefore take unto you the whole armour of God, that ye may be able to withstand in the evil day, and having done all, to stand. Stand therefore, having your loins girt about with truth, and having on the breastplate of righteousness; and your feet shod with the preparation of the gospel of peace; Above all, taking the shield of faith, wherewith ye shall be able to quench all the fiery darts of the wicked. And take the helmet of salvation, and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God.                                    
Ephesians 6:13-17                                                                             
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I was studying this passage this week, and thought I would share my findings with you!

Belt of Truth.
Girt-gird: To encircle, surround, to secure. To gird oneself is to prepare and strengthen oneself for what is to come.
We are to surround ourselves with truth-Jesus especially, and the Bible, in order to be prepared and strengthened for what ever battles or assignments He might have for us.

Breastplate of righteousness
We need Christ's righteousness to cloth us, for ours is as filthy rags.

Shoes of the gospel of peace
Feet represents going somewhere. We are to be prepared to go and give the gospel to anyone who asks of the hope within us. (1 Peter 3:15)

Shield of faith
Faith-complete confidence or trust in something or someone
Shield-Something or someone that protects you.
We have all the power and grace supplied to be able to extinguish temptations and sin, but we must have complete confidence in our shield of defense- Jesus Christ.

Helmet of salvation
Salvation-saved from sin and delivered form Hell.
Christ is our salvation, our way of escape, deliverance, Redeemer. But He also gives us assurance of that. He is also our helmet-protection of salvation. Since we can't earn it, we can't keep it either. He maintains it for us.

Sword of the Spirit, that is the Word of God
If you have the Spirit within you, it will communicate with you, whether you are displeasing God, or if you should or shouldn't do something. It is your most powerful weapon, because without the Spirit, it would be next to impossible to know God. The sword may also be used to prick me, to show me my sin. It is used for killing the enemy as well.
The word of God is quick, and powerful, and sharper than any two edged sword, piercing even asunder of soul and spirit, and of the joints and marrow, and is a discerner of the thoughts and intents of the heart. Hebrews 4:12

So, without Christ, we cannot have the armor of God, and can't use it either. Christ is the key element here.

Here is a poem that I wrote as I was meditating on this:

I will be your belt of truth
I will prepare and strengthen you.
There are battles up the road,
Just be still and think on what is true.

I will be your breastplate, I will
Clothe you in My righteousness.
My blood is the price I paid,
Only trust, and rest in My holiness.

I will prepare you with the gospel,
And tell you where to go.
You must be ready always,
Tell the world of your hope.

I will be your shield of faith,
A refuge for you to hide.
Only use the grace and power,
I lovingly supplied.

I will be your salvation,
I will redeem you.
You can in no way earn it,
I will guard it too.

If you abide in Me,
And I abide in you,
My Spirit with the Word of God,
 Will be a light to guide you.

I will be your armor, the armor of God.
I will be with you in trouble,
and guide where your feet trod.
I will set you free,
And give you peace in the storm.
I am your Lord Almighty.
Copyright 2014

Tuesday, July 1, 2014

Titus 2 Series: Good/Obedient To Their Own Husbands

That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed. 

                                                                       Titus 2:4-5

I decided to combine two posts into one, since both are kind of self-explanatory. 

Being good had me stumped for awhile, because the whole verse seems to be about being good, does it not? 
But looking up other translations helped immensely. It also means to be kind, pleasant, agreeable, joyful, and happy.
Well, I will tell you from first hand experience that if you are loving your husband, loving your children, being discreet, chaste, and guarding your home, you can't help but be joyful!

But when things aren't going as we planned, our siblings are fighting and you can't get them to stop, our parents keep asking us to do things when we haven't finished with the last 5 things they told us to do, feeling ill ourselves but can't stop because there is no one to take your place, our siblings don't finish their chores and you are the one in trouble (it has happened before!), and everything just seemed to be depending on you, it isn't easy to be agreeable or pleasant to those around you!  

Perhaps what I am about to say you may find a bit surprising; people can't make you mad. Your family can't "get on your last nerve". You choose to have a last nerve. You choose to be angry. How you respond to situations does not need to depend on the situation itself, but on 1. Your relationship with God, and 2.How you choose to respond. 

There have been several times when something happened, and I was in a different room when it took place, so I was able to hear it before they confronted me with it (e.g. someone broke my favorite teacup, or my tea pot {I love tea}), and I was able to decide before that I was not going to get angry. When they told me about it, I looked at the offender and told her I forgave her. She was so relieved, and thanked me over and over again (it was the same little girl both times). It would have been very easy to have blown up at her, and hurt her in the process. But because I was able to step back and assess the situations, I didn't. 

So, my advice. Cry out to the Lord, stay away from it until you can think clearly, count to ten (never worked for me. I always forgot), and then make a decision that you know would please the Lord.

I don't really know about being obedient to their own husbands, because I don't have one, but I do know about obeying my Dad. Not just obeying, but respecting, honoring, and helping his helpmeet to run his home efficiently. Not to mention being submissive. And how we respond to our Dad's is how we will also respond to our husbands someday. There have been numerous books written on this subject already, so here are some really great books I have read/am reading:

So Much More by Sofia and Elizabeth Botkin
Joyfully at Home by Jasmine Baucham
Preparing to be a Help Meet by Debi Pearl

We can be Christ-like women, while even being at home. Life doesn't start when you get married. It's happening before your eyes. Don't waste this time in your life that the Lord has given you.

Emily Long